For as long as I can remember I have had a slightly crooked bottom front tooth. It never bothered me until I started drinking coffee and for all you coffee lovers out there I know you understand that that the struggle is real - coffee stains our beautiful pearly whites!
I could see the stain grow slightly darker as the months trickled on by but I kept thinking that if I ignored the stain hard enough the problem would just go away. But then I became self-conscious and for a time – with out realising it - I started hiding my smile. At the time I didn’t know how to do anything else!
I was worried about what I would have to do to fix it so it was easier to hide. I didn’t take ownership over the problem even though I was in complete control!
Ironically I didn’t stop drinking coffee either and I didnt change my teeth brushing routine!
That was until one day the stain stopped being the problem! I had to tackle something much greater and that was how the coffee stein was making me feel – insecure, self-conscious and paranoid.
I was firmly standing in my own way and reinforcing myself as part of the problem.
My smile, my laugh and my voice all suffered because the problem manifested into something so much greater than it ever had to be!
It was only then that I decided I had to take back control.
I tried DIY kits and anything I could get my hands on but it never actually did anything to help. It wasn’t until I took action by seeing an expert that I became a part of the solution and no longer a part of the problem.
Life coaching is the same!
Is there something in your life that that you are ignoring becasue if there is THIS is what is preventing you from having the levels of happiness, health and positivity that you desire!
Now, the problem has manifested to other areas of your life. Your confidence is dwindling, you no longer have clarity or control on the direction that you life is taking. Life is just series of boxes that you need to check. You are a victim of your routine. You feel like you are trapped on a hamster wheel, spinning in circles and getting deeper into your rut?
You need a life coach the same way I needed that dentist and in the same way you need or want a hair-dresser, doctor or therapist. I am like a personal trainer for your brain helping you work on your mental fitness.
But what is life coaching?
Life coaching is a future-focused practice with the aim of helping you determine and achieve your personal goals. By examining what is going on in your life right now we can discover what your obstacles or challenges might be, and choose a course of action to make your goals, ambitions and dreams a reality.
We coast, drift and float through life as if our comfort zone was a bag pack we carry around with us.
Do you settle for what ever you have because you don’t know how to demand a higher standard from your life?
Do you feel guilty for wanting more?
Are you afraid to ask for help because you think it will make you appear weak?
Do you beat your self up because you have no idea how to be kind and compassionate to yourself?
Being honest with our selves is hard - and in a world that is obsessed with short-term gratification and immediate results - the idea of working for happiness isn’t a palatable one at the best of times. But if being honest is hard than asking for help can feel like a gargantuan task.
Asking for, and accepting help, can make us feel weak and vulnerable.
But I am here to tell you that asking for help is a sign of strength and not weakness, a sign of wisdom and not inability.
It is my secret weapon for leading a happy life.
Our ego is the controlling part of our self that wants to feel special.
Our ego is the part of our self that resists helps, feels superior and wants to win at all that we do (even if it means that we haven't performed at our best). Our ego is the part that is telling us all negative feelings are bad.
People often feel ashamed and hide their negative feelings and emotions. However, emotions are perfectly normal and natural for humans.
We have the ability to feel a spectrum of negative and positive emotions. This is life's natural yin and yang and can help us create a vibrant life full of vitality. However, its our reactions and mismanagement of these emotions that often results in our inability to reach our potential.
When we suppress our negative emotions - when we avoid feeling them - we start to engage is negative behaviours like binge eating, over exercising, over watching TV, lack of motivation in life or always keeping busy in life and so much more!
It's difficult to really get the most out of life when you are hiding from it.
But what would happen if you were no longer standing in your own way? What steps would you take to achieve your goals? When you let go of your ego and pride and step out of your own there is no limit to what you can achieve in your life.
What would your life be like if you allowed yourself seek the support that you deserve in order to life a life that you love?
If you think that working with a life coach would help you than get in touch with me today to find out how I can help you can reach your potential.