Incase you hadn’t noticed life can be difficult, challenging and pretty overwhelming - sometimes life is just shit.
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from life’s inevitable failures, mistakes, pain and disappointments. The good news is that even if you're not a naturally resilient person, you can learn to develop a resilient mindset and attitude.
Here are my top 4 resiliency training strategies to help you bounce back, become less fragile and develop a little bit more mental toughness.
Look for opportunities for self-discovery
We can learn from traumatic, stressful, or difficult events and use them to make ourselves stronger and more resilient. There are, of course, certain situations like the death of a loved one, illness etc when you will need the support of others but in everyday life, how do you think being a little tougher might help you? Find one positive thing you can learn from this challenging situation.
Be objective and don't exaggerate your experience
For many of us, we think an unhappy or disappointing event is much worse than it is. We exaggerate, catastrophise and ruminate over the issue until it grows and grows and grows. Not only is objectivity and balance an important element of resiliency, but it is also an integral part of self-compassion. Ask yourself, 'whats the worse thing that can happen?'.
Focus on the positives
Being positive does not mean that you will never have moments of despair, anxiety and discouragement. It means that you never let these thoughts take over your life. Positivity is a pathway to a happier and more resilient life. We can CHOSE how we react to negative and challenging situations.
To deal with life and all its challenges we need to build up our mental toughness. It's crucial if we want to live a better life. Change, setbacks, challenges etc are a part of living and focusing on what we can, rather than cannot change, will help us remain strong.
To live a better life means we must learn how to bounce back after experiencing some of life's many setbacks.
Take a deep breath. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. And start all over again. You can do this!
Sarah Doyle is a life coach, a speaker, the creator or L-School and The Empowered Women Workshops, the founder of The Better Life Project and author of Be Your Own Best Friend. Sarah works with women all over the world to help them achieve their personal and professional goals, whilst developing their confidence and self-esteem.