I used to by my own biggest critic. When something negative happened, I would torture myself and replay every last detail over and over in my mind. I gave myself such a hard time.
Have you ever made a mistake and felt overcome with fear, guilt or shame? Me too! When something didn't go my way I gave myself such a hard time; If I was late, misspelt a word, sent an email to the wrong person, missed a deadline, forgot to call my mom. But self-criticisms and judgement never once empowered me to move forward with confidence and clarity.
I HOPE MY 5 QUICK STRATEGIES WILL HELP YOU STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP, AND FIND COMPASSION AND KINDNESS INSTEAD
Focus more on positive self-talk.
A success bank is a written record of all your accomplishments, successes and moments in life that make you happy and proud. A success bank will help to further develop your confidence and cultivate positive thinking. For me, a success bank is an extremely powerful way of helping me to focus my thoughts in a positive way.
Practice kindness towards yourself
How we respond to ourselves in our moments of pain and perceived inadequacy will make us, or break us. Self-kindness is this crazy idea that we deserve the same kindness that give others. Self-kindness means we stop the judgement and criticism.
Think of mistakes as learning opportunities.
Every set back is an opportunity for a come back; I really believe that. Being a human means that we will make mistakes... Welcome to the biggest club on earth. Its called humanity and there's about 7 billion of us!
Be patient with yourself
Yes, you are going to make mistakes and things won't always go according to plan. And on top of that, there will be times you try something and you're not perfect at it. These things are OK. It happens to us all. Be patient with yourself. You are enough.
Be Your Own Best Friend
Be Your Own Best Friend is a daily journal for building self-esteem and using compassion in everyday life for women, put together to help you leave low self-esteem, insecurity and your inner critic behind. Designed to be used for a 12 week period, each page has been beautifully crafted to help you nurture your more fabulous relationship: the one you have with yourself. I have also included some really helpful and practical exercise to help you protect and build your self-esteem and confidence. Together, we will embark on this journey to a deeper appreciation, acceptance, and love for yourself. Available on Amazon.
Sarah Doyle is a life coach, a speaker, the creator or L-School and The Empowered Women Workshops, the founder of The Better Life Project and author of Be Your Own Best Friend. Sarah works with women all over the world to help them achieve their personal and professional goals, whilst developing their confidence and self-esteem.