I know what it's like to get ready, only to just not feel confident moments before I have to leave the house. In the past it's been enough to make me want to stay home.
My top four tips will help you FEEL confident and beautiful before a big night out.
1. Think About What You Like About Yourself
When we look in the mirror our eyes often gravitate towards the parts of our appearance we don’t like and feel most self conscious about. I remember one time in the not so distant past fretting over whether or not my eye shadow was blended enough - I wanted to immediately hide in the bathroom until it was fixed. I can see now that I was the only one thinking it and that everyone around me was taking me in as a whole human.
When you are looking at yourself in the mirror focus on what you like about yourself, no matter how small you think it is.
Self-acceptance means embracing and accepting your flaws and strengths. It means spending more time liking the parts of you that you like, and less time hating on the parts of you that you don't. When we are able to accept ourselves will we start to respond to our face and body differently!
Start by redirecting your energy and focus by creating a mental list of all the things - mind, body and spirit - you like about yourself.
2. Manage Your Inner Critic
For a lot of us, when we see something we don’t like we begin to nit-pick. But this self criticism never actually does anything to help us, does it? In fact, it's actually very harmful and damaging behaviour. Research has suggested (pay attention) that self compassion is crucial to helping you like yourself more.
Try to take in and talk about your face and body the way you would to a child or best friend—with appreciation, acceptance and compassion... not criticism.
Self compassion will go a long, LONG way to making you feel better about yourself.
3. Smile and Sit Up Straight
Your body language - your physiology - plays a crucial role in your self confidence. The golden rule of body language is to take up as much space as possible. When you are feeling anxious or worried we tend to cover ourselves and when we are feeling confident we open up and relax. So, when you are getting ready smile at yourself in the mirror, keep your head up and shoulders back and why not put on your favourite song and dance your way to happiness while you're at it.
4. What Is Your Big Night Out All About?
Remember what you are celebrating on your big night out, and who you are sharing it with. It is very easy to get caught up in todays online world and worry about friends on Instagram seeing you in the same dress twice, an unflattering angle or less than expected number of likes on a selfie that took ages to take. Your big night out is about more than your new matt lip gloss, perfectly applied tan or flattering dress,
It is about the memories you are creating, the friendships you are making and the moments you will cherish with loved ones.
A lot of us are our own worst enemy when are getting dressed up for a night out. We create a list of very strict rules for ourselves and unless we meet each one we don't feel food about ourself. It's time to give ourselves a break. You are beautiful just the way you are!
Sarah is a life coach and motivational speaker. As the co-founder of The Better Life Project, a movement dedicated to helping you live happy, healthy, positive and confident lives and with oodles of infectious energy she is super passionate about helping to inspire you make your awesome life happen. She’s the “go to” life coach for anyone feeling stuck in a rut, lacking in confidence or struggling with low self-esteem or body image. Sarah offers life coaching and mentoring services and works with clients in person in Dublin, Ireland and over Skype around the world.