Burnout is a special type of stress — a state of physical, emotional or mental exhaustion combined with doubts about your competence and the value of what you are doing!
You can experience this in work (very VERY common) but also in other areas of your life where you are working towards accomplishing something (training, relationships, house renovations etc)
During last few months I have failed – miserably failed - at following my own advice!
I am a little burnt with work and a few other bits and bobs so my energy is way off!
My stress weak point is my lifestyle - when sh*t hits the fan the first that goes is healthy eating habits, desire to train or spend time with loved ones. I just want to veg out in front of Netflix.
For a lot of other people their stress weak points could be confidence, physical or mental wellbeing ... it really depends on the person.
I'm becoming pretty in tune with my stress levels so I knew all the signs of burn out were there: exhaustion, lack of motivation, frustration, irritability, poor concentration or short attention span, feeling preoccupied with work even when not working and not taking care of yourself (to name just a few).
I need to unplug, recharge my batteries and start taking care of myself better.
With two sisters living overseas, an online business and clients all over the world I am constantly on or thinking about emails, What's App, phone calls and social media.
My phone (the Internet) has robbed me of some very precious moments that would usually be spent thinking, reflecting, and just being!
I know that a holiday has the potential to kick start a much needed and much improved self care plan but I don't always have the luxury of time or the money to spend.
Nevertheless, I won't let this type of burn out happen again so I intend to take much better care of myself in the future.
Here are a few things you can do to avoid burn out!
UNPLUG EVERY DAY: Start with 10 minutes of no screen time every day. The reason we start small is to build our confidence and likelihood of success. When you can do 10 minutes every day for a week you, you can start to build on this. The most important thing to do here is create and honour space, each day, where you practice boundaries that empower you to put yourself front and centre.
- TAKE YOUR RELAXATION SERIOUSLY: We are living in a culture that has glorified "busy" and to a certain extent, stress. Your down time is so important to your physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing so take it seriously. Designate time to relax every week, even if you don't think that you need it!
- DO SOME NON WORK RELATED STUFF DAILY: Spend time outside of work doing things you are passionate about, challenging, rewarding and lights you up! These boundaries are super important so take time to cultivate and nurture them.
For A LOT of people it is very hard to recognise stress, burnout or more generally any other form of negative emotion. If or when we do recognise it, we resist seeing how it is a problem.
Most people measure their success based off how busy they are and whats worse some people will even base their success off their stress levels.
There is nothing sexy about always being busy and there is nothing glamorous about waiting for a holiday so you can finally take a break from your stressful job!
You are worthy of a work/life balance that is stimulating, rewarding and FUN! Don't ever forget that!
Sarah is a life coach and motivational speaker. As the co-founder of The Better Life Project and creator of L-Schoo, she’s the “go to” life coach for anyone feeling stuck in a rut, lacking in confidence or struggling with low self-esteem or body image. Sarah offers life coaching and mentoring services and works with clients in person in Dublin, Ireland and over Skype around the world.