Goal setting is a powerful process for thinking about your ideal future, and for motivating yourself to turn your vision of this future into reality. The process of setting goals helps you choose where you want to go in life.
If you have been feeling a little stuck in a rut or if your goal has been eluding you for too long, Its time to figure out what has gone wrong so you can kick starT 2016 with a bang!
It's no secret how much I LOVE goals and how much I believe in their potential to completely transform a persons life, wellbeing, success and relationships. A good goals programme will help you and teach you how to;
- Manage your life
- Plan and get clear on your future
- Honour your values (you have personal values right?)
- Set your goals and accomplish them
- Celebrate your success
- Learn from failures
- Monitor your progress
- Preempt challenges or road blocks
- Be creative and make progress on a daily basis through habit formation
- Have fun
Here are my top tips to make YOUR goal a reality.
tIP 1: Create a clear plan
Your clear plan - also known as your BLP goals programme - will be made up of at least 5 seperate stages which I have outlined below. Get a pen and a piece of paper and write down what you think your goal is. Using the BLP goals programme template start to think about how this goal will fit into your life.
- Starting Point: This is important so you can track and monitor your progress.
- Task: Small things that you should be doing every day (habits) to bring you closer to the end point. Your ability to form good habits might be the difference between success and failure.
- Milestone: Lets you know you are moving closer to your goals. Our brains get bored and frustrated if we chase the same thing for too long.
- Celebration: This is possibly one of the most undervalued stage of any goal setting programme. Always take the time to celebrate your wins, not matter how small! There is no such thing as moving the goal posts back! There is only forgetting to take stock of your accomplishments and celebrate them.
- End Point: Ensure that you’re working towards a fixed date to help keep you focused, motivated and accountable.
TIP 2: TAKE OWNERSHIP OVER YOUR GOALS
Research shows that when we take ownership over something, including our goals, we are more committed to it. Taking ownership over goals means it becomes "ours" thereby becoming part of our identity (but please read tip 3 to understand more about this).
Don't be afraid to talk about your goals either, and don't be afraid of what people might think of you - it is only ever small minds that judge big goals.
TIP 3: CREATE MULTIPLE GOALS
I love goals and I truly believe they can completely transform a person’s wellbeing BUT I believe that goals should be pursued with balance and authenticity. So, when you are creating goals for 2016 create up to three different goals that cover the big areas in your life - job, personal and relationships.
Taking ownership over your goals, or simply just having a goal, can make us feel special and significant - it feeds the ego which can be a good and a bad thing!
It’s good because the ego hates failing. But it's bad because it becomes TOO easy to align our entire identity, worth and value with this one goal and then consequently lose the ability or even the desire to balance their thoughts and actions about their goal with any other parts of their life.
You think that you always have to learn from failure. You feel like your always need to be ON. Show the world you are real and you make and learn from your mistakes.
The pressure is on to always to do/learn/be something.
When you feel this much pressure you lose the ability to innovate, create and explore other ways of achieving success so you inevitably become stuck. Your confidence takes a knock and you lose touch with your intrinsic value and worth as a human. Your goal ruins you! But by spreading your passion and energy across 1-3 important areas in your life you are actually preserving your passion (and sanity) in the long term.
TIP 4: HAVE FUN WITH WHAT YOU VALUE
Does your goal reflect what’s important in your life, or is it something that has been foisted on to you by someone else? And if you had to wake up at 5am every day to do it, would you? And would you do it with a smile on your face?
Your goal won't always make you happy, at times you will need to pull back, but if your goal doesn’t make you happy most of the time, you should ask yourself is it working out?
TIP 5: GET HELP
You probably already know what you need to do to fix whatever it is that’s wrong with your life, or at least if someone was to ask you the right questions you’d know exactly how to answer it.
But most people just don’t know how to ask the right question so you need someone who does. A life coach - with hundreds and thousands of hours doing just that - is a MUCH better option than a random friend or partner who’s more concerned with not offending you, than they are asking the right questions.
Like Aisling, you need to find your own answers and I’m here to help.
A decision isn’t TRULY made until you take a step towards turning that decision into a part of your reality. You need to pursue real life experiences. You need to take action.
And in this case, that action is to send me a message and tell me what’s up and I’ll see if I can help. I won’t lie to you – not every problem is solvable by a life coach, but I bet there’s a lot more that I can do for you than you realise.
Do what Aisling said – take Action. Send that message now.
A single hour long coaching session might not seem like long, barely even enough to crack the surface. But when you deal in the scientific principles of happiness and life coaching, you can get to the root of the problem, and create a very effective set of first steps very, very quickly.
Hell… let me surprise you with that.
For less than the cost of a Saturday night on the lash, you could have your world turned upside down just like Aisling did.
---- truth bomb: most people go out on the weekend to try and forget about the problems you’re about to step up and tackle. Imagine going out just because you wanted to have a great time with your friends. Not just because you were trying to escape something ----
That’s what coaching with The Better Life Project can bring you so send that message now.
Don’t even think about it, because if you do, your brain will come up with one million and one reasons why you shouldn’t. Listening to that part of your brain hasn’t worked until now.
Talk to me instead, and let me help you work it out. We can't be an expert in everything and sometimes we just need an extra pair of eyes to see something we are missing, or an extra set of hands to pick us up if we are struggling.
If you are becoming frustrated by your lack of progress or need to reboot your motivation than I can help. As a life coach its my job to hold YOU accountable to the commitments you make to yourself.
Get in touch with me today and find out how just 60 minutes with me can help transform your goal!